PERFECT , PERFECTIONISM

Sometime people feels like what they accomplish isn't what they want, they think things aren't good enough. We see people in the tv putting off drafts and papers and wanting to get them just right. I learn that it is a mindset where there exist a self-defeating thoughts and looking up for unreachable target. However it is sometimes claimed as a requirement to become better, without it, we live driftlessness and aimless. But I believe if this thing exist, people never get satisfied and at this point sadness, disappointment, and dejection follows.

Why? ~ fear of failure ~afraid of doing it wrong ~ fear of letting others know their flaws ~ All-or- none thinking, they think if they are doing it, they will make it in time and perfectly ~ Believing others are born to be successful and easily succeed, flawless, no mistakes, and theirs? always not satisfying

I tried to talk into one of my friend today. He is sad with his studies outcome, like what I just wrote in the previous article, the MUET test. But the difference is, he got a Band 4 and mine merely Band 3. All kinds of emotion arose, I am annoyed yet trying to be compassionate, I am hurt yet I am there to talk to him, to into him. He said band 4 is not enough to gain intake into a university in Singapore, which is right. He can try to sit for the same test again next year and try to make a difference, but he is going to miss the 1st intake of the university. True as well. I tried to challenge him to compete with one of my classmate whose grade is utmost superior, I know he can do it, but he said way too far. I even tried to compare my test result, a Band 3 to his Band 4, which is apparently better, and make him, at least, feel satisfied, haha, of course I am really hurt when I am trying to make a contrast of how bad is mine studies and how great is his. I told him, there are dozens of people getting so down for result of the similar test and yet thinking of retaking it, dozens of people getting bad result and still burying themselve under books, even thought they know it is hard, but, are you seriously giving up just before the world is going to end? 

I don't know, I am not a perfectionist, I am an optimist, I think people can be perfect and if we fail, then try again, and again, spirits never fade even the world die.